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- F- d( R$ @, {9 t' f! Umso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma;mso-bidi-font-family: 0 d1 _" f/ }9 XTahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">孝，如今还在于与父母交心、沟通，体谅父母的难处，分担父母的责任。& |1 l; d: b4 k0 M( b0 ` mso-font-kerning:0pt">——- D( W; R& ^& z) X! afont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 3 ^8 O l/ D$ S. l( t; Wmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对，这是从情感上关心父母，是尽孝的重要内容。生，事之以礼。死，葬之以礼，祭之以礼。2 N0 g- V) A" i+ H# B mso-font-kerning:0pt">——& Z. i" }2 t( _$ `' _$ K k2 ~font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; \. L1 T% F, D% F' bmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对父母的孝道，是义。如何尽孝，是礼。如何行礼，就是生而不违，去世行丧礼，祭祀行祭礼。《孝经》说：/ m4 T& k; Y$ |# R3 ^5 w mso-font-kerning:0pt">“7 C4 j( A5 E9 O& Mfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼者，敬而已矣。故敬其父，则子悦；敬其兄，则弟悦；敬其君，则臣悦；敬一人，而千万人悦。所敬者寡，而悦者众，此之谓要道也。4 h2 p7 |8 O- ]1 \& umso-font-kerning:0pt">”7 N) D; g$ V* V# q1 I$ H8 g: Efont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 3 L7 L2 C' d" u! ^mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼的内在依据是孝悌，而外在表现，就是一个4 [, P8 V* k O; z8 } mso-font-kerning:0pt">“5 \+ r+ e% n' ^6 }6 j$ `: P$ g) r4 f font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">敬3 a9 e. `5 E8 T% X- l4 y+ s mso-font-kerning:0pt">”6 Y: y$ V4 P; s" u* v7 ]font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">字。所以，如能尊敬他的父亲，那么其儿子就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的兄长，那么其弟弟就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的国君，那么其臣下就会喜悦。尊敬的是一个人，却能使千万人喜悦。所敬者虽然只是少数，而喜悦的人却有千千万万，这就是为什么把推行孝悌之道和礼乐教化称为7 Y# C& \6 G5 P* \9 o mso-font-kerning:0pt">“& K& l0 b0 @6 v E4 p3 c- Hfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; ! b6 [" P8 V) [- E, o: l( c7 Dmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">要道2 t% u% u# K3 @ Q4 h, qmso-font-kerning:0pt">”- R0 N& K! d; x1 [2 B/ o H font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">的意义所在啊。7 M( m4 P: Q( b5 U. |* Vmso-font-kerning:0pt">

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现在用法律手段规定子女要常回家看看，但是由于时间、金钱等各方面的原因，又有多少人是想回而不能回的呢，这个道德层面的问题上升到法律层面到底有什么意义，始终不大明白

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我这里显示也是一堆乱码，怎么回事

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贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

我这里显示的是一堆乱码！！

不错，学习了，佩服佩服